20 year archive of first hand accounts of people just like you, who were able to progress from terrified to confident with a consistent effort in manageable steps.
I recently gave a work presentation to a group of
25. And, thanks to you, Charles, I did very well. I received a
lot of great compliments. Next week, I am scheduled to present
twice to work groups of at least 25. And, in July, I am scheduled
to give a formal presentation to a company-wide technical
organization. Wish me well. :)
Gail Carbine – 03-02-09
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I ended up making a pitch at the Worship committee
meeting that day (9 attendees). The Sunday before I presented 4
resolutions at the congregational meeting (30 to 35
attendees).
M. Richardson 10-30-08
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I successfully conducted an orientation on Monday,
February 9. My supervisor told me I was very good. My co-worker
was so impressed at how natural and calm I was.
E. Ortiz 02-11-09
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Charles, Just want you to know that my speech went
extremely well. I was not nervous at all. Everybody enjoyed the
humor and I felt like Jay Leno. I received many compliments,
including one who said that it was the best Bar Mitzvah speech
she had heard. Getting up and practicing in front of the group
was a huge help. Thank you all for your valuable feedback and
encouragement. Keep fighting the fight.
Regards, VG 02-10-09
* *
Just a nod of appreciation for your wisdom,
sensitivity and talent. I truly feel I have spent all these years
in the wilderness and have finally found a sort of safe haven. I
have finally found hope for a better way and it does feel like a
huge relief. Thanks so much. By the way, my best friend had his
50th birthday party last Saturday night. I doubted all week that
I would be able to toast him - something I have never been able
to do - but for some reason I was the first one to pop up and
actually said something coherent. My wife was shocked. Hey,
something must be working.
Peter Downs – 01-29-09
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Hi Charles, I had to share...last week I got cast in
a student film and this week I got cast in an INDIE. I am SO
thrilled. and remember guy Simon? well, we still email...he's a
producer...and for some reason, he just likes me and told me he
would set an appointment up for some auditions with the people
he's working with in LA. very kind of him. it's just great to
have some momentum! I went on an audition today and wasn't
nervous. afterwards, I was, but as long as it isn't DURING, 'is
improvement for me! Lord knows I never thought I'd be doing this
at all...getting out of my way is...know what I mean? I hope you
are well. As always, thank you for everything!!!
love, jenny
* *
Charles - On Thursday morning I emceed our Freshman
assembly with 250 + students and a dozen or more teachers and
administrators - although I didn't have to speak very much - I
was pretty relaxed and did a good job I think. Thank you for all
your help.
Jon Dywer – 01-06-08
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The last time I was attending, it was for an in
service last February. It went really well :) maybe 40 people
attended, including my boss, and my boss's boss.... thanks,
Kristen Bruan 01-05-09
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Wish me luck today. I am giving my winter kick off
seminar for my job that last three days for 5 to 6 hours per day.
I have 125 scheduled to come in for training. GULP! ;) Please
tell the group that I said hello. =)
J. Wilder 12-27-08
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Hello Charles, This week full of Holiday Parties has
reminded me of what a positive effect the class has had on my
life this year. Last night we had our company Party with more
than 20 very outgoing creative types. My boss gave a little
speech and then called on me to get the gift exchanged started.
To my surprise and relief it went great! I had a minor increase
in heartbeat and then I thought to myself, "what is this...I can
do monologues this is no problem"...and it worked!! I explained
the rules of the game, held everyone’s attention, didn't
feel anxious at all and the gift swap was a huge success. When I
was told I did a great job handling this unruly crowd, I told
them I would not have been able to do this last year and the
difference is because of your class. This new confidence has been
noted at all of my Holiday social gatherings. It has felt so nice
to just kick back and have fun rather than worry about the social
anxiety. When I started the class you told me I would someday
feel this way. I am so grateful. Thanks for all of your
help!!</ p>
Christina Birchard - 12-26-08
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Charles, I did a presentation today regarding a
library visit. I got through it!!! My anticipatory anxiety was
really high around 7~8, and I was so worried not only about the
presentation, but also my struggle with public speaking in
general. Anxiety level went down when I sat in front of the whole
class, but it was still there around 3~5, and managed to get
through it without showing anxiety. Thank God, and thank YOU!!!
for taking me to this level. While I was anxiously waiting for my
turn, I thought about all the positive feedback you gave me, and
decided not to disappoint myself. I know I have such a long way
to go in this battle, but I'm very committed and happy that I
have a great teacher like you.
S. Park – 12-23-08
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After completing your course, I had an interview for
a job right away. It went better than expected and is a job I
probably would have never have applied for without ta king your
course. In fact I was as calm as ever and feel confident that I
could do well in any interview situation even if this job doesn't
work out. As part of my orientation I had to talk about myself
for more than a minute or two and there was a moment that I
though I might have a panic attack or at least I felt really
nervous, but that moment passed and I felt good about what I had
to say. I guess I now know more of what to expect in those
situations and that I can control my anxiety.
M. Dave- 12-15-08
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Charles, Just wanted to let you know. It couldn't of
gone any better than it did on Saturday! I spoke after the maid
of honor. She was really nervous, and that kind of relaxed me. I
felt like I had to redeem her a bit. I was relaxed, and people
were laughing more than I expected. People were coming up to me
all night telling me what a good job I did, and that they'd never
be able to do it themselves. I really appreciate everything
you've done. It was a huge help to practice in front of
everyone.
B. Casey 12-07-08
Dear Charles, Thank you very much for the guidance
and the reassurance. It helped me formulate my thoughts concisely
and gave me the confidence to speak with minimum anxiety. I think
the interview went well. Will keep you posted on the outcome.
Thanks once again and all the best.
Angelica S. 11-18-08
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Recently, I had to do a lunch and learn presentation
at work and thanks to all the prior practice at the workshop it
made it a much smoother process, as if I had already done it
prior. Thanks for making the workshop available. Thanks and best
regards,
Stephen Treacy 11-12-08
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Thank you for the class.
The following is what I learned in the first session:
1. smiling makes a speaker look more confident. 2. speeches are
best short and direct to the point. 3. too much hand gesture is
distracting. 4. a nice suit can influence positively. 5.
intelligent - seemingly wonderful people have the same anxieties
as I do! 6. waiting for your turn to do a speech is agonizing!
but its comforting to know I’m not the only one who feels
that way.
and you Mr. Zenspeak- you're just hilarious! VEry witty -
incredible timing. Humor is so important.
Thank you for the experience- I REALLY LIKED IT. :-(
Kathleen Ong - Professional Organizer 08-18-08
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Hi Charles, I really appreciate your continuous care
and support, and am happy to tell you that the presentation went
extremely well. This, I can say, was unimaginable two months ago.
I can finally see the result of attending your classes. It's as
though I passed the mid-way point. My next goal is to attend the
Toastmaster classes!
S. Kaya
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Charles, I got through the best man speech. It went
very well. The place was packed and I probably spoke for 3 or 4
minutes. Oh, and I had to wait until after 11 PM to give it.
Mark Molloy 08-07-07
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My interview and presentation for the teaching
program went very well yesterday. I couldn't have done it without
your help. You're an amazing guy and a great teacher. If I get
accepted and I start doing presentations, you'll be seeing me
again in late October. All the best,
Gerald La Starza 07-26-07
* *
Anyway, I just wanted to give you an update and say
thanks. Of all the docs I've seen (and we're talking far more
than a bakers dozen) you seem to be the only one who truly knows
what he's doing and how to work with people. The rest seem to
have acquired all their answers from a textbook.
Ben B. 07-30-07
* *
The job interview went very well, I was offered a
second interview, completed that and was given a job offer on the
spot, They were really interested.. I used your feedback in class
and it served me well.
Jarrett Kaczmarski 07-09-07
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Some updates... I feel I am at the point where
social anxiety is not negatively affecting my life anymore. There
is still much that I could improve on, but generally I can deal
with it. I rarely doubt myself anymore (even when I am not
talking), and honestly, I couldn't have done it without your
classes. So just want to say thank you!! I plan to start teaching
English sometime in the future, so I will be coming back to
public speaking (and maybe acting)... probably in
August/September. Cheers,
Han Cheung 06-26-07
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Hi Charles, I just wanted to let you know the
presentation went very well and believe it or not I wasn't even
that nervous. It really helped to be able to practice it in front
of the class and your advice was very helpful too. See you soon
and thanks again!
Sharon 06-19-07
* *
Just wanted to let you know that the presentation
went well - better than I expected.! I got feedback that I was
the best speaker of the day and they had about 6 others
presenters. So thank you for all your help! Looking forward to
continuing improving.
N.B. 06-13-07
* *
The presentation went well. Better than expected.
Although nervous in the beginning. I felt good, polled some of
the audience for feedback, some unsolicited, gave me positive
feedback. My short time with you helped (3 weeks).
Leesa Grant 06-04-07
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Just letting you know that the public speaking
workshop has already improved the quality of my life. I am so
glad I am participating and have met some wonderful people. Thank
you so much.
John Kaiteris: 06-01-07
* *
I had my actual oral argument today. I got great
criticism from the two lawyers judging me. Their only negative
critique was using a certain phrase to much, but they said my
passion, and understanding were phenomenal. I stated a little
nervous, but found my stride pretty quickly. I wanted you to know
that I could not believe how anxious everyone besides me was.
people were freaking out, and I was totally calm and confident! I
was actually thinking about referring some people to our group
because they were so scared and anxious. The advantage I have
from your teaching, and my participation in the group is
amazing!!!!! Me, the one person with social anxiety performs
better than a lot of these other people. I think a lot of people
suffer from anxiety and they don't know it, or won't acknowledge
it. Anyway, it was great. If I scored in the top 32 out of 193
people I get to go again next week against a tougher opponent. I
will keep you updated!! You program rocks!
Jared
* *
Charles - Hi, I wanted you to know that on Monday I
volunteered to argue my case before my professor and fellow class
mates today in preparation for the actual argument taking place
on Saturday. No one else volunteered, they were to afraid. I have
been pretty nervous about it. However, I got to class, and I was
prepared. I was able to relax thinking about all of the times I
have done the same thing with you. Then when I got up I was
anxious at a 3 or 4 for about a minute, then I got comfortable,
started to enjoy it and was performed with such ease! The whole
class was impressed. I can't believe what a difference your
course has made in my life. I get anxious about things, but I
completely know I can manage the anxiety now. It has been one of
the best things I have ever done, and 9 months ago it would have
been out of the question to blindly get up in front of a group of
people and do what I did today. I just thought you'd like to know
that everything is really paying off. I will see tomorrow! P.S.
You need to do what you do on a wider scale. Not for the money,
but simply because it makes such a difference in people's
lives.
Jared <04-18-07
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Hi Charles, It's Sharon, I was a student of yours
about 3 years ago (I'm Guyanese - ring a bell?) Thanks for
keeping me on your email list - I auditioned for the part of
Violet this morning and got it!!!. Thanks again and take
care,
Sharon 10-25-06
* *
My reading (wedding) went very well - thanks for all
your help!!!
Best regards, Sarah T. Slocum 05-29-07
* *
Well my presentation in front of 100 people went off
without a hitch and I was totally fine...thanks to all the
practice I had!!
Jamie Bradley 05-29-07
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Charles - You were right... it went quite well. I
was not to nervous and in control of the situation. I am glad to
have practiced over and over in class! Yet, still a lot of
progress remains to be done in the future! Thank you so much for
all your help and kind support.
Dominique Bernard 05-18-07
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By the way, I gave my presentation at work Friday
and it went great. I spoke to a room full of about 25 people and
wasn't nervous at all! I couldn't have even imagined doing that a
year ago. My boss told me twice that I did a great job. You have
worked a miracle -- thanks so much.
D. A.
* *
Dear Charles - As you know I am going to be
participating in an Acting Showcase in a few weeks. I will be
performing on stage for the first time in my life, -in front of
an audience of about 70 people, on 4 consecutive nights, no less!
This is a miracle for me! This is something which only 6 months
ago I wouldn't even have dared to dream of. As I said, there's
just no way that I could've come this far were it not for you and
the class. I remember you once said to me, after I had just been
up in front of the class, "If you stay with this and work hard
your whole life will change." Well I have news for you, it's
already beginning to happen.
John Talerico
* *
As you know I finished the workbook, and just want
to say thanks to you. I know you have been doing it for a long
time, but you do a great thing there. I hope you know that. I
NEVER would have gotten through it if it were not for the way you
teach. I don't know how it's been for everyone else through the
years, but for me, the workshop has been something very special.
Even these days when I have anxiety about attending, and
especially when I DON"T, I never let myself forget the first day
and why I came. It keeps me humble, and reminds me to let go a
little bit.
Joe LoGuidice 10-12-06
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The task ahead seemed insurmountable. I am a 23 year
old graduate student who was to teach English 220 to a group of
30 undergraduate students. This would require intelligence,
poise, the ability to speak in public, and a brand-new wardrobe.
I was horrified. I enrolled in the workshop, hoping to cure my
paralyzing fear of public speaking. As the time drew closer, I
enjoyed daily panic attacks and hard-core insomnia. I practiced
in four different groups, and though, when I went in for my first
class, I was trembling with trepidation, the experience that I
had gained from groups sustained me and I survived. I write this
now in my brand-new office, a few hours after my third
class.
The workshop may not make public speaking easy, but it makes it
possible.
Marina Robinovich
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ah Charles, I had to share...such SWEET RELIEF...for
the first time, I didn't get nervous AT ALL, anywhere in my body
on stage. and, I did three takes in a row and had to be
condescending and belligerent. You know how hard anger is for
me...and people were like, "wow, don't' let me get in a fight
with you!" it was SO FREEING Ican't tell you and so much fun. my
partner gave me a high-five after because we just had so much fun
with it. and, Iwant to keep it that simple...but, my god, it's so
great not to have those symptoms and Ican store it in my memory
for when the nerves surface....yippy! so, one step at a time and
enjoyment...I am learning... I hope you are well! thank you for
your classes and time and friendship. always,
Jenny Defrancisco - 11-11-05
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Hi Charles, Just letting you know that I did my
introductory speech in my class yesterday and it went very well.
I was nervous before the class started and I had anxiety as I
went up to speak but it was completely controllable. I tried to
project more as I spoke to release any nervousness, like you
suggested on Friday, and it worked. When I speak louder I feel
more powerful and the nervousness goes away a little, or at least
becomes a lot more manageable. It seems like it's impossible to
"panic" if you speak loudly ;) Several students came up to me
after class saying they liked my speech. So, I'm glad I went back
to your course to practice. It made all the difference. Thanks
for 2 good classes and great feedback from you and the Friday
evening students. p.s. I'd like to return to "stay in shape." I
may not make it this Friday, but I'll email you again to let you
know when. Thanks.
Katarina - 10-26-05
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Charles, Hola! I just wanted to email you and let
you know that my event Saturday night went really well. I had the
expected anticipatory anxiety (the greeting line was pure hell),
but resigned myself that it would go well. I started off shaky on
the "Thank you's', as my voice quivered and I made one small
flub. Then I gathered myself (paused a second) and launched into
it, slowed down on my delivery and elaborated on the jokes, and
started getting some genuine, loud laughs, and a great round of
applause! I hear it came across sincere and funny and I got
complements. All in all, I am very happy with it. I can't stress
enough how much good the practice did. I know I couldn't have
done it without your help, and I wanted to thank you! I very much
appreciate your patience. Thanks again,
Eric C. 10-24-05
* *
I'd like to thank you for all that you have done for
me up this point in our class. I never thought I would be able to
speak in front of a group again, and with your compassionate
guidance, I am gaining confidence in my ability to do just that.
It was a wonderful practice for me last night on so many levels.
In particular, waiting until the end to take my turn. It's
amazing how the things we think are so challenging, are just what
the doctor ordered.
Maureen Munroe 10-14-05
* *
It started like an airplane...shaky at first
rumbling down the runway (for about a minute) as I worked to gain
composure. During the first minute, I wasn't sure if I would
crash or fly until I got just a little air under my tires and
lifted of the ground just ever so slightly. Once I realized I was
within grasp of control (a few more minutes of talking), the
anxiety began to fade as I realized I knew the material well due
to practicing. As the anxiety began to lift, I actually took off,
soared and enjoyed myself. It was the presentation I always
wanted to give!! Thank you Charles!!!!!
Greg Roberts - 10-14-05
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Charles, I am already benefiting from the work that
I have put in my public speaking. I am answering and asking
questions voluntarily in class. I have a presentation to give
next week on a regression analysis of cancer rates which I'm
feeling confident about. I look forward to returning to class in
the next couple of weeks to improve my public speaking abilities
further. Regards,
James McCullagh 10-06-05
* *
OK Charles. Have to give you the update on my
presentation last night. I was a little nervous about this one as
the group was certified financial planners, some of whom are also
CPA's and attorneys. Had a group of 46 actually show up. Used
your advice to sit down, didn't feel I had to use the Q and A
format so much as my presentation was broken up by a dinner
break. This was a little odd, but I managed. Since we were giving
continuing Ed credit we got course evaluations from some. We got
34 back and I got 4 goods, 17 above average and 13 excellent! The
feedback last night was great. What a rush! Everyone thought I
had an excellent command of the subject matter. Last night was
the most comfortable I've been, dry mouth and a bit of nerves
lasted only about 5 minutes with no shaky voice. Thanks and I'm
looking forward to doing more work with you.
Jaime Raskulinecz 09-23-05
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I have been attending the group for sometime now and
I want you to know just how much it has meant to me and the
changes it has made in my life. Last week I became a certified
Toastmaster. I completed my tenth speech and was awarded a
certificate and a pin at the end of my speech. The best part
about the night is that I gave the speech anxiety and all. The
anxiety no longer controls me and when it appears I don't spend
most of my time trying to suppress it. I have learned, with
Charles' help, how to function with my anxiety and to live a full
and happy life with it. At the Toastmasters meeting on another
night, I was to evaluate a gentleman who was once part of
Charles' group (purely coincidental). I was struck by how
comfortable and really funny this man was as he spoke to the
group.. It was then that I thought someone should know about the
fruits of all that Charles does. So here I am writing this
testimonial because as I sat at the Toastmasters meeting with my
old friend from the Public Speaking Center, I can't believe how
far we've come, how good we are (anxiety and all), and we have
the Center and Charles to thank.
E. Tucci 06-21-05
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Hi Charles - My best man speech on Sunday went over
really well. I'll fill you in on all the details at the next
session. Thanks for all your help!
Frank Gregory - 06-01-05
* *
Also just wanted to say thank you. If it weren't for
you, and this class, I would have had no chance, my anxiety was
that bad. Unlike most people in the class, I have full blown
social phobia, but coming here has really helped a lot, and has
actually enabled me to have normal conversations with people,
most of which I've never met before - something that was damn
near impossible before. Thank you,
Alex Malios - 04-05-05
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Gave my second speech at toastmasters tonight, to a
crowd of about 30. Not a lot of anticipatory anxiety but fairly
nervous, (in and out) during the speech but few people saw my
discomfort. Got mostly comments of excellent speech, primarily, I
think because the content was original and strong but at the
least I survived; no crashing and burning; and I came out pretty
good, on the whole. Once again, Charles, my thanks to you and all
those fine people who are your students. on a happy note, i did
my oral arguments in federal court and not only did i do very
well, i actually enjoyed them! thanks for all the help.
Nick Mitchell - 03-31-05
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I have tried very hard to keep coming every week and
not miss. The classes have been helping me a lot. And I feel that
coming once a week has kept me in front of people on a regular
basis, and is beginning to chip away at the problem. In other
words - the program is working! I've been reserving making this
conclusion, for fear that I might use that as an excuse to stop
coming. But I believe that the way to continue to succeed is to
continue to attend.
More proof: Last Wed. I had my presentation for the Fire House
project. When my Marketing Director sprung that presentation on
me on Mon. at first I felt fear (not nearly as much as in the
past). But the first thing that I started to figure out was would
I be able to attend class prior to the presentation to do a dry
run, and practice in front of the group. Once I realized that I
would be able to do that, I actually felt some relief! And once I
did the presentation in front of the class on Tues. - as rough as
it was - I felt much more confident and in control of the
situation. Well, the presentation went well. Certainly not
flawless, but definitely a success. And because I was better
prepared and more confident, I felt that I could actually absorb
much of what was happening, rather than only worry about my
part.
The class is working! But there is still much work to be done!!
Thanks for all your encouragement and help thus far!
Pat Lacorte - 02-05-05
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Charles, I had a good experience today that I wanted
to share with you. When I first started your class, one of my
goals was to be able to handle "roundtable" type discussions.
Lately, I have been getting around them by being the first person
to speak - less anticipatory anxiety. Today I had a "roundtable"
discussion, where I did not have that luxury. The VP of my
department had us go around and I had to give an update on the
tasks that I was working on. I went 7th and I was able to manage
the anxiety! It was incredible. I didn't know that I could do it.
My comfort with projecting my voice and making eye contact really
came through. I also found something interesting lately. I always
tried to hide any jitters by staying still, before it was my turn
to speak. Instead, if I try to "shake off" the anxiety
(naturally) by moving my hands or legs or whatever, I dispel some
of my nervous energy. It really helps ... and maybe someday I
could actually do stand-up comedy? My interview last Monday went
well too. Thanks for your help and your class.
David Dutt - 12-02-04
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What can I say? It was far and away the best speech
I've ever given. The maid of honor and I went out to the dance
floor and she asked if she could go first, so naturally I
obliged. I was more excited than nervous while waiting. I noticed
that she was reading her speech and didn't have an intro or say
'good evening' to the audience, and I'm thinking, maybe I should
give her Charles's phone number. And then I nailed it. There was
more laughter than expected. Every single person I spoke to
during the course of the wedding said how nicely I spoke and
complimented the material. My friends said it didn't seem as if I
was trying to be funny which actually made it much more humorous.
The most flattering remark I received was that it seemed as if I
was talking to everyone in the room on a personal level. It was a
great feeling and I'm grateful to you and the class. The practice
and the feedback I received enabled me to deliver the speech with
total confidence.
Brian Feldman 11-20-04
* *
Hi Charles, first, I want to tell you that the
presentation on Monday went fine! I was so relieved to get
through it and I feel like I did a good job. Thank you for all
your help and support - and for listening to it so many
times!
Caitlin Anderson 11-12-04
* *
The presentation went really well. I was a wreck,
but no one seemed to notice, and the new Director of Development
was really happy. Your help made a big difference. I'll give you
details when I see you.
Martha Hiatt 11-10-04
* *
The good news is that I had a presentation last week
to my 50-person strategy class and I nailed it. After some
initial anxiety (which I was able cope with and get under
control), the presentation went great and I didn't run out of
air... In any case, I recognize the significant value of your
course and I am very appreciative of the progress I have made
after attending it a handful of times.
Tom Harris- 11-05-06
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Good news Charles! My presentation went really great
today!! I was completely poised and calm. I even wanted to speak
beyond the time I was given. I'm still in shock right now but I
just wanted to thank you for helping me through this. I couldn't
have done it without you and the support of the group. thank you
again!
Sarah Lee 10-08-04
* *
It is now four years since I started to do puppet
shows for kid, (which is pre recorded) but every time I do a show
I hide my self inside my booth and before I start the show I look
up to my puppets as they hanging up there I smile to them and
tell them, Hey, you better do a good job, leaving me wondering if
it will ever, ever be a time that I will be able to come out of
that booth and speak live to the audience. Now since I started to
this class things start to improve rapidly as Charles took me up
the ladder step by step, and last week I did a show for about 250
kids and for the first time I was able to speak with the audience
and got them involved in the show. It was something, after the
show I saw all my puppets looking at me, I almost hear them say,
hey, you did a good job. Now its my turn to tell Charles, hey,
you are doing a good job and I can not thank you enough.
Moses Guttman 08-17-04
* *
Here's a positive anecdote: started class last week
at New School and not only handled dreaded intros with relative
aplomb but actually participated during class!
Rene - 7-22-04
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I have to tell you that this course really works and
I can't thank you enough. all the best
Moses Guttman - 7-06-04
* *
I did the joke today and it went well ... I'm glad I
practiced it once and got your feedback. Today I just told the
story ... there were about 150 people in the room ... Thanks.
Josh - 6-23-04
* *
Had some experiences outside of class that were
positive... introducing myself to about 16 people with not much
anticipation about it- also, having to read in a class that I'm
taking (we went around in a circle-of course, me being the last-
felt anxious when the others we're reading, but when it got to me
I just did it, and kind of psyched myself out of it as I got
started). Next week comes a short presentation of a project for
the class... Thanks Charles.
Kristen Braun - 4-23-04
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Hi Charles, Just writing to let you know how the
presentation went. During the presentation I was very nervous but
I fought through it and finished the presentation. I forgot to
make some points and tripped up the words at one point but I
could live with it. Overall it was a coherent and complete
presentation. Thanks for your help!
Justin 04-12-05
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Charles: I want to tell you about my presentations
in the university: I had three presentations last week, one of
them was for 30 minutes! I was too nervous the night before that
presentation, but when I was in the class I felt relatively
relaxed...and when I started the first presentation I felt great!
:) was an excellent presentation, was so smooth (as one of my
classmates said) funny that when I presented the materials I did
not want to shut up ! after finishing my presentation I went back
to my seat whispering to myself " Thank you Charles!" So thank
you again for the support and for the smart insights.
Abdullah Al-enezi - 4-03-04
* *
Hi Charles, Well, the conference call went fine. I
was definitely nervous -- my hands were shaking! But I spoke
loudly and clearly and I'm sure it wasn't apparent. As the
session went along, I was not anxious at all, and was able to
ad-lib my way through it. So I thank you very much for all your
help! It certainly is a relief to have this over with. You
provide a wonderful service for all us shy speakers. Thanks
again,
Chris Castanzo - 4-01-04
* *
I don't want to make any premature judgments but I
think the course is doing wonders for me. I feel MUCH more
comfortable in meetings and training sessions where speaking in
front of the group is required. I just want to keep going on this
path because little by little I can feel that things are getting
better. I don't know if it's just the talking about and
discussing the fear and/or the exercises. I really think it is
the combination of both.
Karl Loeffler - 12-15-03
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I've finally received my Peace Corps invitation.
Naturally I'm feeling some anxiety - not just about moving to a
new country or living in conditions that I'm not used to, but
primarily about my work, not knowing what to expect, where I will
be working, what exactly I will be doing, who I will be working
with or speaking to. But I don't feel overwhelmed by my anxiety,
I really feel that I can meet the challenges I'll be presented
with. And I owe so much of that to you and your group. I would
never have been able to apply for the Peace Corps or be in this
position had it not been for you and I hope you understand how
grateful I am. Thank you.
Laura - 12-10-03
* *
I was extremely anxious about facing the upcoming
class presentation; I actually considered backing out. All the
while I continued coming to the group and thru the support of the
group members my confidence rose. The anxiety never ceased
although it lessened with time until the night arrived when I had
to give the presentation and I conjured up the strength to
proceed. I made it thru and afterward a couple of classmates told
me I did a good job, when all I wanted to do was just make it
thru. Now that this presentation is over it gives me more
confidence to deal with several more presentations that will be
coming up within the next several weeks. I cannot and will not
become complacent. I will continue to attend the group and
hopefully, with time, will be able to look back at these days and
laugh, while never sitting back on my laurels.
J.A. Jovine - 11-27-03
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As you know, I've been nervous for quite some time
about the "best man" speech. On preceding days, I did feel
pressure building a bit, but the anxiety was manageable.
Throughout the day of the ceremony, I had to keep reassuring
myself that I could give the toast, even though I was very
nervous about it. Well, I did do it - if front of 160 people. It
was such a good feeling to be told by dozens of guests how great
the toast was. After attending at least 20 weddings in the past
five years, this turned out to be one of the best.
Joel S. - 9-08-03
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Charles: Just wanted to take a moment to thank you
and update you on my progress. As I type this I am in the middle
of a grueling orientation. As a part of it, I was required to
take a two day communications and public speaking workshop.
Needless to say, I was very nervous about this. When I got to
class I found out that each of us (40 students in the class)
would be making three presentations over the next two days. I was
very nervous, particularly before my first presentation, as I
think that this is the largest group that I've ever spoken in
front of. I got through it and couldn't believe the feedback I
got from both the professors and my fellow classmates. People
told me that I was great and didn't seem nervous at all. One of
the professors even told me that I was a natural. This was a huge
step for me. As nervous as I was about making these
presentations, I couldn't imagine how I'd feel if I hadn't
attended your program beforehand. I now plan to join a
toastmasters club down here, and really believe that one day I
will become the confident public speaker that I never dreamed I
could be.
Jason Sheer - 8-20-03
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Hi Charles, I just wanted to fill you on the
presentation I gave yesterday. It was a three hour presentation
attended by 15 high-level technical and management executives
(including my boss, and his boss), and I was the only presenter.
In the past, it would have been unfathomable for me to even
consider giving a speech of this magnitude, and without question
I would have found a graceful way to avoid it. I couldn't have
imagined speaking for 3 minutes, let alone 3 hours, to this type
of group. I just want take this opportunity to thank you,
Charles, as well as the other participants in the program who
have helped me to achieve what at one time I thought to be
unachievable. I know that the war is not yet over, but a big
battle was won yesterday, and I look forward to continued
progress in the future. Thanks again,
Dave Bantel - 6-20-03
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I gave my presentation today to a group of about 30
people. I was pretty nervous ahead of time, but got through it
nicely. I felt my voice being a little shaky in the beginning but
as I kept going, I eased nicely into the presentation - and it
even ended up being fun! I received serveral compliments as
people exited the room. Thanks for all your help,
Debbie Jesse - 6-18-03
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Charles, Just to let you know, today's presentation
went extremely well, perhaps even better than during the last few
trial runs. I really nailed it and I was even able to pause after
some bullet points to embellish. I know that was not the original
strategy, but by the 3rd slide my anxiety level was down to a 1
and was comfortable enough to do anything. After the
presentation, some of the questions were tougher than I thought,
but I answered them well. As I left the room after the
presentation, a partner handed me the following feedback: "Rich,
Good presentation. Much improved over last year. You looked calm
and confident." What happened today is a tribute to the hard work
I put in as well as my dedication. However, it is also a tribute
to the public speaking program you run, and the success it
brings. Thank you for all of your help and for the strategy you
developed to help me succeed today. Like I said in my email a few
weeks ago, the stakes were high because of what happened last
year and they were really focusing on this presentation. Failure
was not an option! Best Regards,
Rich Brady - 6-16-03
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HI Charles, I'm so sorry I never made it back for
additional sessions before I left town - it's been incredibly
hectic (as if my job weren't already hectic enough). I can't tell
you what a great help your workshops have been for me (what an
understatement...), although you're probably very good at
measuring each individual's progress. I truly never thought I'd
EVER be able to stand up in front of a group and speak. And with
little or no measurable anxiety at times...one of life's little
miracles. I will be forever grateful. Thanks again, Charles -
from the bottom of my heart.
Linda Lombardi - 6-02-03
* *
Dear Charles, Thank you so so much for all your help
and encouragement. Your class really has been a life changing
experience for me. I've gained a greater level of
self-confidence, both socially and professionally. And I
appreciate that you believed from Day 1 that I would be able to
be successful in your program.
Laura - 6-01-03
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Charles, I recently accepted my Toastmasters club
request that I be president. It is unbelievable to me that I even
belong to a public speaking group and now it looks like I will be
president. I have three speeches left to attain my CTM. I could
never have done it without your help. Thanks!
Jeff Schwartz - 5-07-03
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Charles, I just wanted to say again how amazingly
grateful I am to you for your wonderful classes. I cannot
describe how much more confidence I have gained and how much
better I feel about myself in general thanks to the classes and
on top of all that I feel I have gone some way to fulfilling a
lifetime ambition of mine. I can only hope that when I return to
England I will find a class as supportive and friendly as yours -
somehow I doubt it. Thank you again for all your support,
guidance and advice. And please pass on my thanks to everyone in
the class, I couldn't have kept returning each week if it weren't
for their friendly faces and support.
Alison Hartley - 4-14-03
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Charles, My lecture last night was a success. People
loved it and I had fun doing it. I was relaxed the whole time.
The fear of public speaking as been transformed to the joy of
public speaking.
Paula Rocha - 4-11-03
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I attended a week's worth of sessions with you last
April. Since then, I have really come a long way. I still have a
long way to go, but I have accomplished all of the short term
goals I set for myself in your office. THANK YOU!!!!
Jackie Douglas - 4-10-03
* *
Charles, I want to thank you for helping me prepare
for my meeting at work. It took place this morning and I couldn't
believe how well I did! There was absolutely no anxiety except
when I finally got into the conference room. But I broke the ice
and it subsided. I couldn't believe it! Normally, I'd be a wreck
the minute I'd wake up knowing I have to talk to a group of
co-workers. Obviously, this boosted my confidence. I was amazed
at myself, normally a meeting of this nature would have
debilitated my whole physical and mental state. When the meeting
was over I had this intense sense of confidence and energy and
felt like I wanted to do another meeting right away! I know I
have more work ahead of me but today was clearly a burning light
of success. Thank you Charles and many thanks to the group
members who are always so supportive.
Roberto - 3-25-03
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I just learned that I got an offer from a Canadian
firm that was my top choice from the various ones I applied to
(to start in September, perfect timing for me). I'm so very
excited. I could not have done this without all of your hard work
with me. Thank you so very much.
Andrea - 3-05-03
* *
I gave a toast this past weekend at my engagement
party, in front of about 50 family and friends. I was anxious
leading up to the event but after gaining structure and putting
less emphasis on making the best possible toast, the anxiety
rescinded and the it went quite well. Just getting up there and
saying something sincere made all the difference. Thanks for all
the help.
Brian - 2-10-03
* *
I have a speaking engagement Feb 1 to about 80
people, I teach a course beginning Feb 4, I accepted a seminar
speaking engagement for March and another in April to as many as
200 people for one and a half hours.
Keith - 1-14-03
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I did my speech last night and I thought I might do
horribly but I didn't. I was very nervous and I think that people
could tell but I was okay with it.
Gina - 1-9-03
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I performed in the XMAS skit at work today though,
and did well with it. I was a little nervous about appearing in
front of 70 people, and not feeling great, but sort of powered my
way through it. anxiety was probably at a 4 or 5 level. People
said I did very well and they loved it - it was a comedy routine,
poking fun at our managers.
Josh Horton - 12-19-02
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This weekend at my husband's cousin's Bat-Mitzvah, I
had to get up with my husband and my brother in law and sing
three prayers in front of the whole congregation. To my
amazement, I hadn't given any thought to it until I got to the
temple. Normally, I would have freaked out for a week. When I got
up there, I was nervous and a bit shaky but so was everyone else
who had to do it. Once I started the prayer, I relaxed and
actually felt very confident up there. Thanks Charles. Six months
ago, I don't think I would have been so relaxed.
Ellie - 12-2-02
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Hi Charles, the speech went extremely well. I felt
extreme anxiety in the morning when I first woke up. The anxiety
lessened as the day went on. By the time I gave the speech I was
experiencing almost no anxiety. I actually improvised in three
different sections of the speech. I was amazed by my lack of
fear, and many people gave me compliments. Thank you for all your
help and encouragement.
Sincerely, Bill Bodge - 11-11-02
* *
I would like to let you know how helpful and
enjoyable I find your classes. I already find myself more
comfortable speaking in a group and have even had a small but
important opportunity to speak up at a meeting at work. I can't
wait to come back to your class as soon as my schedule clears up.
Thanks.
Angel Rodriguez - 10-27-02
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My presentation went very well. I practiced several
times the night before then a couple of times during the day.
When the time came I wasn't nervous at all. I kept it slow and at
a good volume and was complimented by several of my colleagues.
Thanks for your help and support!
Vic - 10-25-02
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I actually had to give a 1 1/2 hr case presentation
to my lab group and supervisor and never thought I'd get through
it! I did, and the first ten minutes were very hard, but it eased
up, and when I had to do it again the next week, I was so much
more confident. I am always thinking about how helpful your group
is, particularly getting others' feedback after presenting, which
really helped me change my perception of what I look like up
there.
Elisabeth - 10-20-02
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Charles: We'll my BIG event is over (speaking to 150
people) -- and I never slept better than I did last night! It
went very well, my partner said it was a 9 out of 10. Overall, I
feel good about my first time out. I also did the final closing
remarks, which was impromptu (in that I did not prepare for it)
and my partner said this part was very warm and genuine. Several
people congratulated me, including members of my board. Thanks
for your help, and to those in the group who had to hear my
speech over and over again!
Tracie - 10-04-02
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Thanks for the words of encouragement, Charles. I
had a "go around the room and give us your name" type of meeting
today. Only ten people and a high comfort level with most of
them, but it was no problem whatsoever. It's so strange how you
can psych yourself out about these things, against your own
wishes.
Kate - 10-04-02
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The presentation to our board of directors went
quite well. I was a bit anxious beforehand but once I started
everything was fine. It is amazing to me when I think back on how
I would have panicked about it even a few months ago. Your class
has helped me immensely.
Rachel - 10-02-02
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Last week, Jack Welch, the former CEO of GE, came to
speak at Dartmouth as part of a Leadership Series the business
school hosts. Mr. Welch addressed the business school (first and
second year classes totaling 480 students) in addition to the
entire faculty and other distinguished guests. When he was
finished, instead of opening up the floor to questions (he likely
avoided doing so due to his recent publicity nightmare involving
the compensation information released to the media in his wife's
divorce papers) he decided to cold call someone in the audience
to comment on a story he had just related in addition to
discussing an ethical issue from their personal life. So,
needless to say, he called on me! I had to stand up at my seat
and speak in front of everyone totally impromptu. My voice was a
drop shaky in the beginning (but I doubt anyone noticed) but I
was able to relate clearly a story. Once I got going I was fine.
Many of my classmates came up to me and said I did an amazing job
and that the story I told was very relevant (plus they felt badly
that I was put on the spot like that and were glad it wasn't
them!).
Erica - 9-28-02
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Hi Charles, I have been meaning to write to you and
tell you how wonderful your workshop was. I've really learned a
great deal about myself. I've learned that I can get up in front
of a room full with strangers and talk!!! The class was so
supportive that I am sorry my sessions have ended. Please tell
everyone I said hello. I am going to actually miss going to the
workshops on Tuesdays which is not the feeling I had at the
beginning. Thank you very very much.
Nikaulis- 9-27-02
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Charles~ My first day at toastmasters was a bit
scary, but I survived! There were 3 other guests with me, but
they seemed pretty experienced in public speaking. We had the
table topics speeches today and I gave one that lasted 2 minutes.
I was feeling pretty nervous up there, but I somehow managed. A
lady told me I looked really comfortable~ hope she meant it!
well, I decided to join the one I attended today. I'll keep you
posted on my progress~ thank you Charles for your support!
Rebecca - 9-23-02
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Hi Charles-- I'm still working full time, but I'm
taking one class at Columbia in the School of Social Work. I'm
working toward my Clinical MSW so that I can eventually become a
licensed psychotherapist. I'm very excited about this new course
in my life, and I honestly believe I wouldn't have had the
courage to make this move had I not attended your classes over
the past year. I recommend your Public Speaking Workshop to
people all the time.
Gretchen- 9-17-02
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I spoke in one of my weekly meetings last Wed.
reading from my notes and I remembered to breathe and speak
slowly. It went well and I wasn't that nervous. Thanks
Charles!!!
Ellie - 9-13-02
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Charles, I was a nervous wreck the first time I
stepped into your class; when you asked me to introduce myself, I
could barely breathe because my anxiety level was off the charts.
After two 12-week sessions, I developed enough confidence to move
on to Toastmasters. I still have some anticipatory anxiety
preparing for the speeches and I still get nervous right before I
start but once I get going, I'm fine. At work, things have never
been better. I'm taking on a much more public role in my company.
I'm going out on lunches and meeting with buyers--something I
used to dread--and I actually look forward to these events. Best
of all, I convinced my wife to join Toastmasters and we have
discovered public speaking as something we can do together. For
anyone reading my testimonial, don't think about taking Charles
class, do it!
Scott Messina - 6-10-02
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Charles, I did it. My icebreaker at Toastmasters
went really well. My anticipatory anxiety was not too bad and
once I began my speech, it was very manageable. I got very good
feedback from others. I couldn't have done it without all of your
help! You can certainly share this with others, although it
understates what an incredible feeling of accomplishment I
have.
Jeff Schwartz - 6-04-02
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Charles, I just got back from Church and I have to
tell you that the readings this morning could not have gone
better. There were about 30 or so people there. My voice did not
shake at all and once I relaxed, I started to read with more
feeling and even had fun with it. I Thank you again for the help
you have given me. I wasn't sure before about signing up for
future readings but I now feel confident that I can, and will, do
them.
John - 5-14-02
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Gave my next presentation/book signing tonight.
There were 16 or 18 people, only three of whom I new and all went
well. Very little anticipatory anxiety and very little anxiety
while up there (from 1 to 2). I kept my formal speech short, had
some props in the form of pictures I passed around and turned it
into a q and a session after about five minutes. It was enjoyable
for me and everyone else seemed to enjoy it also. (My wife just
asked me who I was writing too. I told her and she said, 'you
know, he's doing a great job.') My sentiments exactly.
Keith - 5-12-02
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I had a bit of success on Tuesday night. I gave my
"ice breaker" speech at Toastmasters and won the award for best
speech. It felt great, especially since one of the other speakers
was a "distinguished Toastmaster" who has given 100s of
speeches.
Ben - 5-10-02
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II went to my second Toastmasters meeting last week
and won the award for best table topics discussion. I'm giving my
"ice breaker" in two weeks, and I would like to practice it on
Friday, if I can manage to draft something between now and then.
Also, I'm arguing an appeal before the New York appellate court
this week. So, in all, lots of public speaking and noticeable
improvement. Hope you are doing well, and I'll see you soon.
Ben - 4-26-02
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Hi Charles-- Wanted to let you know that I did my
presentation today and it went really, really well...the anxiety
greatly dissipated when I stood up to talk, and I successfully
made it through and actually felt like I could've kept on
talking. Thank you so much for your help over the last few
days...I kept a cheat sheet of your rules to reference while I
was presenting (Loud, Breathe, don't try to be good, and I also
drew a little stick figure of you demonstrating to me how I
needed to just present the info), it helped so much as did the
extra practice you gave me Saturday and last night. Thank you
again!!!
Gretchen - 4-16-02
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Hi Charles! I just wanted to let you know that my
presentation went quite well last night. I was really nervous,
but my anxiety went down significantly once I got going. And the
suggestions you gave me were very helpful. My argument generated
a good discussion afterwards and I even got a few compliments!
I'm relieved that it's over, and I'm glad that I finally broke my
silence in the class. Thanks, as always, for your help and
encouragement. I really appreciate it.
Joey - 4-11-02
* *
Had the Barnes and Noble presentation last night. I
forgot a few lines from some early portions of my speech but it
didn't matter much. I had it written out but never referred to
it. I chose not to use the mic. for most of the speech. I had
little anticipatory anxiety and once really under way, no anxiety
during the presentation. In the Q and A portion I was really
enjoying it and wanted it to go on. I have survived my greatest
fear with little difficulty. My sincerest thanks to all the
really supportive students over the last several weeks, and to
you Charles.
Keith - 4-01-02
* *
Had my class last night. It went without a hitch. I
was quite in command and divided my time between teaching the
class as a whole at the front of the room and working with my 13
students individually. I had no anxiety, projected well, was
strong and confident. They liked the class and got a lot out of
it. I really wasn't anxious about it before though there was a
fast energy running through my body, but I expected somewhat more
difficulty than I had. I taught a class years ago and was
terribly anxious and barely survived it, with much practice. I
practiced this class last night, for about ten minutes once a
week ago.
Keith - 3-19-02
* *
I want to thank you for somehow getting me to stand
in front of a group of people and talk, all within just a few
weeks. Thanks to the workshop I'm looking forward to this year!
Thanks again,
Bryan - 3-11-02
* *
Hi- I just wanted to let you know that I had a more
formal presentation that I had to give today and I lived through
it. I also received some great feedback from my peers so I think
it went quite well. I wouldn't have been able to get this far
with out your class.
Jean - 3-18-02
* *
This week is the first time in about three years
that I did a presentation to the Operating Committee on video
link without any Xanax, and with manageable levels. It went very
well actually. What a relief that is! Next week I plan on doing
the Board of Directors cold turkey as well. It is because of you.
How can I thank you enough. Anyway, I am like a new man. My wife
says I am finally just myself. At the age of 52!
Tom - CIO 3-1-02
* *
I had my last short film project workshop in screen
writing class and volunteered to come up in front of the class of
35 to tell (not read) the story - I felt great, very little - if
any - anxiety once I started, and the training helped me tell it
an animated way. I feel that your classes have helped me a great
deal and continue to do so.
Alan 2-20-02
* *
Dear Charles, I just returned from California. As
you may remember I was traveling there for my engagement party
and had been practicing a short "thank you" speech in class for
my 165 guests. To say the least, I did an excellent job without
memorizing! My close friends who are aware of my public
speaking/anxiety problem were in complete disbelief that I
suffered with this at all. Words cannot express my thanks for
your help and coaching. This is a huge personal triumph for
me.
Helen 2-18-02
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Charles, I have to tell you this: I had to make two
presentations at PACE University. One was technical and the other
was a survey finding one. Both of them went very well. It felt
great. Thank you very much.
Arvind 12-29-01
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I participated in some short improvised scenes in my
new acting class and was only a little bit anxious on stage in
front of 35 people. I used to be scared just to raise my hand in
class. I guess your group has really prepared me for this.
Kirk 12-20-01
* *
I completed my forth speech at Toastmasters last
night and won the best speaker award. But the really good news is
that I had no anticipatory anxiety, either in the days before the
event, or the final moments of driving there and walking up the
stairs to the meeting. I can truly say I enjoyed making the
speech. Thank you again for my remarkable progress.
Irwin 11-09-01
* *
I recently finished a children's book writing class
at Gotham Writers Workshop. Your teachings helped tremendously
with the performance anxiety (reading my stuff to everyone). One
of the things that has helped me a lot is the realization the
anxiety doesn't necessarily have to go away, and in fact it may
never completely go away, but I can still function. Thank you,
thank you Charles, for your compassion and skill in teaching. I
remember feeling like such a freak the first time I walked into
your class, and now I see myself as a somewhat! normal human
being, whether I'm anxious or not. ...I also remember how you
made me laugh that first day, in a situation I never imagined
laughing in.
Ann - 8-27-01
* *
Thanks to the group's support and constructive
criticism during a mock-interview exercise in class, I felt
motivated to make an extra effort at a recent job interview. I
had been looking for several months with no success, and I was
beginning to think that no one would ever want to hire me because
of my shy manner. To my surprise, the effort paid off; I got the
job! I feel a great sense of accomplishment (and relief!),
further proof that if you persevere, you will see results.
Joey - 7-17-01
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FYI - I did two taped radio interviews last week. I
was kind of worked up about them, but I used some of the
techniques we discussed in the group, plus thinking of the
interviews as personal one-on-one conversations and I was fine. I
think I wasn't as nervous because I knew the interviews were
taped. Either way - I think I am developing a comfort level for
this situation and will be able to do live interviews in the near
future.
Jeremy - 7-11-01
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I can still remember the dread and anticipation I
had coming to your group for the first time and just facing a few
sympathetic people. But my commitment and hard work has paid off.
I recently did something I never would have thought possible in
this lifetime. I won 4 straight Best Speaker awards at
Toastmasters International and one more at Dale Carnegie. I still
cannot believe it. I have had a severe problem with this all my
life and now things are actually starting to turn around. Your
program really works!
Paul Itoney - 6/11/01
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Having taken many courses, yours is the only one
with the fundamental and practical steps necessary to overcome
these fears. There are no secret acting tips or breathing
techniques that will magically rid this problem. It takes small,
incremental steps until a comfort zone is reached.
Steve - Atlanta - 6-22-01 - - Senior Manager for Large
Telecommunications Co.
* *
I don't know if I told you, but I did get the part
in the dance company piece that I auditioned for. My taping for
Channel 9 will be on 4/20, and I have decided to perform. I have
some of my downtown dance friends coming in and we are going to
improv together. There is also going to be another newspaper
piece on me being done this coming Tuesday. AND...I got a call
from the NYC parks department that wants me to run a dance in the
park series in Washington Square Park! I want to take this time
to thank you, because without your support and the support of the
group I do not think I would have been able to go forth with any
of this.
Alexis Marnel - 4/15/01
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I'm a writer whose career was almost derailed
because of my public speaking phobia. I had avoided public
speaking for 20 years. But after creating a well-received book, I
began to receive requests to do readings, presentations, radio,
and television interviews. I was horrified. I would have rather
jumped out of a tenth floor window onto a bed of nails than face
an audience. The anxiety kept me up at nights. I heard about
Charles's workshops and began to attend. Over a period of several
months, I learned to become more comfortable in front of a group
of people. I've given about a half-dozen live radio interviews,
and even appeared on television. I was a keynote speaker at a
university conference where I spoke to about 60-75 college
students. I was a panelist at the American Library Association
national conference last year and spoke to large room full of
hundreds of librarians. It's still scary and I still have a lot
of work to do. But now I know I can get through it. I've even
enjoyed it. I'd encourage anyone whose fear of public speaking is
holding him or her back to try this program.
Pearl
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Charles, Your meetings helped me so much. I did fine
at that ceremony I was so nervous about. I also completed a
couple of classes I signed up for that I had put off for years. I
was very outgoing in my classes, something that would have
paralyzed me in the past. At times I even enjoyed being the class
clown.
Diane 11/26/00
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I will never forget my experience in NY, and I will
always have fond memories of it. It gave me the courage to go
through my classes -- classes that I kept postponing which
delayed my graduation date. You have helped me more ways than you
can imagine. If it wasn't for you , I would never have put up the
website requesting to form a support group in Arizona. This not
only led me to an interest in web design (I have a part time job
at the university), but it has led me to help many others
reaching out for help. In addition, I have been offered a summer
internship. Never in a million years did I think I would have
enough guts to interview with a prestigious company. Thank-you
for everything Charles!
Elizabeth 4/13/01
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Your support group has been extremely helpful and I
have made remarkable progress. Anticipatory anxiety was
overwhelming and used to take a real toll. I am delighted to
report that it is virtually eliminated and I now routinely
participate in events that I used to dread. Many thanks.
Update: Made it through my ice breaker at
Toastmasters, remarkably free of anticipatory anxiety leading up
to the event. There was one intense moment when I pulled into the
parking lot that almost made me turn around and go home. But I
got through that and felt more relaxed when I went upstairs and
began talking to people. My delivery was about the same as it was
in your class. A little tense at first and then relaxed. I want
to thank you again for the remarkable progress. Please extend my
thanks to the class. Progress is impossible without the group
participation.
PS. I won the Best Speaker ribbon for the evening. It is a
victory I share with you and the class.
Irwin
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I was recently transferred to New York in a new job
capacity which involved public speaking to law enforcement groups
of 70 and more. I immediately searched the web and found Charles
di Cagno's site. From the first session, I knew this was what I
had needed. All my life I have suffered with severe anxiety and
"stage fright" from public speaking. After several sessions in
the warm , non-pressuring atmosphere, I knew I had found the
answer to a problem for which I thought there was no solution. I
forever thank Charles for equipping me with the building blocks I
needed to be a successful public speaker. If I can do it - anyone
can!
Marianna
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Coming to the class has been the best 'treatment' I
have encountered to help my fear of public speaking. My
confidence to speak in front of people has grown tremendously
from my first evening, when I thought I would have problems just
being in the class, let alone speaking with all the attention
focused on me. Aside from the confidence I have gained in
speaking out loud, I have also become more confident in other
ways, such as speaking to people one on one. And incidentally
driving in front of others. This is because my self-esteem is
gradually increasing through the support and encouragement of the
group.
Jane Johnson
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I have just attended my 15th session and have almost
forgotten how bad my speaking phobia was just prior to attending
this group. I have gone from being irritable and losing sleep
days before any type of potential public speaking situation to
having minimal anxiety. I continue to travel almost one hour
(one-way) to attend because it has been that helpful. I have
sought many ways and was willing to make great sacrifices to
address this problem. This has been by far the most helpful
remedy to my phobia. My confidence in public speaking as well as
my confidence in other aspects in my life has improved
immensely.
Gary
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This group is beneficial because now I know that
there are others with this problem. To know others have been
where I am, and have succeeded is empowering. The group teaches,
in manageable steps, to overcome something I thought I would have
to live with the rest of my life. I would highly recommend this
group for anyone who has social and/or performance phobia because
the results are there.
Nancy C./ Yonkers
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I believe my confidence has improved almost 100%
after attending 10 weeks in the beginners public speaking group,
led by Charles di Cagno. I look forward now to facing new
challenges, I normally would have put off for another day, month
or year.
KenFried@bestweb.net/ Mohegan Lake, N.Y.Gary
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For years I ignored my social phobia and hoped it
would just go away. It didn't. I am thankful that I took that
first step and called the Center. Week by week I have watched my
ability to speak in public improve. Now I just wish that I had
called sooner.
Steve
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The task ahead seemed insurmountable. I am a 23 year
old graduate student who was to teach English 220 to a group of
30 undergraduate students. This would require intelligence,
poise, the ability to speak in public, and a brand-new wardrobe.
I was horrified. I enrolled in the workshop, hoping to cure my
paralyzing fear of public speaking. As the time drew closer, I
enjoyed daily panic attacks and hard-core insomnia. I practiced
in four different groups, and though, when I went in for my first
class, I was trembling with trepidation, the experience that I
had gained from groups sustained me and I survived. I write this
now in my brand-new office, a few hours after my third
class.
The workshop may not make public speaking easy, but it makes it
possible.
Marina Robinovich
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I'd like to thank you for all that you have done for
me up this point in our class. I never thought I would be able to
speak in front of a group again, and with your compassionate
guidance, I am gaining confidence in my ability to do just that.
It was a wonderful practice for me last night on so many levels.
In particular, waiting until the end to take my turn. It's
amazing how the things we think are so challenging, are just what
the doctor ordered.
Maureen Munroe
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It started like an airplane...shaky at first
rumbling down the runway (for about a minute) as I worked to gain
composure. During the first minute, I wasn't sure if I would
crash or fly until I got just a little air under my tires and
lifted of the ground just ever so slightly. Once I realized I was
within grasp of control (a few more minutes of talking), the
anxiety began to fade as I realized I knew the material well due
to practicing. As the anxiety began to lift, I actually took off,
soared and enjoyed myself. It was the presentation I always
wanted to give!! Thank you Charles!!!!!
Greg Roberts
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Hi Charles - My best man speech on Sunday went over
really well. I'll fill you in on all the details at the next
session. Thanks for all your help!
Frank Gregory
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By the way, I gave my presentation at work Friday
and it went great. I spoke to a room full of about 25 people and
wasn't nervous at all! I couldn't have even imagined doing that a
year ago. My boss told me twice that I did a great job. You have
worked a miracle -- thanks so much.
D. A.